Uncertainty is a common thread that flows through everyone’s life. What is not common is each person’s comfort with its presence. Some people seem to be very comfortable with uncertainty. They assume that whatever comes their way will be for the best and that everything will work out. Others hate it. If they had their way, they would know what is going to happen, when it’s going to happen, why, how, where...no room for surprises.
As a rule, those who are uncomfortable with uncertainty are less optimistic than those who are. If you are uncomfortable with not knowing what’s going to happen tomorrow or next week, it may be due to the fact that you think something bad is coming your way. You want to be able to prepare for it, so you can lessen the impact of the damage that will descend upon your life. Knowing what is going to go wrong enables you to dodge the brunt of the oncoming storm.
People who are not too focused on what exactly is going to happen next week are generally more optimistic about the inevitable flow of their lives. They are confident that the Universe has their back. If the unexpected arises, it will be even better than what they had planned. They don’t need to know when the shit is going to hit the fan, because they assume that it never will, or if it does, it won’t create too big a mess.
I find myself somewhere in between, although I tend toward the “discomfort” side - closer than I care to be and certainly closer than I care to admit. Although I espouse positivity, the Law of Attraction, and the idea that your thoughts create your future, I still have doubts. I have moments (and days) where I fear for the future - mine, my family’s, and all of mankind’s. I call myself chronically optimistic, but not constantly optimistic. Although my optimism always wins in the end, I still battle doubt and disbelief at times in my life. I waver. I guess that means I’m still human.
For those of us who are uncomfortable with uncertainty, it is beneficial to remember that uncertainty doesn't have to bring about fear or trepidation. It can instead arouse curiosity and excitement. We've all heard about happy accidents. The things that surprise us, the things that we don't plan for often are the things that make life sweet. These are the things that we remember - more so than the plans that went perfectly. People say "I love it when a plan comes together" but they don't REMEMBER it. What they do remember is when a plan falls apart. For better or worse, these times are what make us who we are and shape us as human beings. They teach us and inspire us. They give us a depth that we don’t have if we always get our way. Often times Plan B is better than plan A anyway because of the lessons we learn and the unsought knowledge obtained It’s rare that unforeseen circumstances lead to the conclusion that whatever we were doing was a total waste of time. Rather, usually we experience a HAPPY accident. There is a pleasant shock to the system.
"Well…. I didn't see that coming, but COOL!"